I commonly say "Let me check with the Wife". But it is more of a check to see if she had anything already planned, or if there is something i am committed to and forgot (do that a lot). Any time I want to go out with the guys, the only thing she will say is, "If you are going to a strip bar, don't give the girls any of my dollar bills".

Here's another way to get even with a former spouse you don't like. Create a Myspace profile for her. You may have to log on to myspace to see this link.

http://www.myspace.com/db36863

Funny how many slants you can get on this subject by reading all of the responses. I agree with "Hey Little Cobra". Both of them are at fault but for different reasons. Also, abuse takes many forms and is a door that definitely swings both ways. Most of the time the male gets the blunt end of the stick in the abuse arena because we are bigger and stronger (usually). However, the verbal and psychological abuse that some women seem so adeptly capable of is just as damaging and demeaning as actual physical abuse. Usually, though, it is the man who ends up paying dearly in divorce, especially here in NJ, no matter what the underlying cause of the breakup. I know that all too well from personal experience.
You know, sometimes it IS just easier to remain in the marriage even when things aren't good. After all, what guarantee does anyone have that things will be better with the next relationship. I wonder if in two years that young cute Asian chick will turn into the same kind of psycho his wife seemed to be. Anyway, the only persons who ever win in a divorce are the attorneys. After 18 years with my second wife, I actually have come to the realization that I might have been better off working things out with my first rather than throwing in the towel.
Present wife has one helluva temper and doesn't hesitate to show it. When I married her I thought she was Miss Right. What I didn't realize at the time was that her first name was ALWAYS. What am I supposed to think of a woman whose only comment when she first saw my Cobra was "What an ugly looking little car." OUCH, that hurt.

Mannnnnnnnnnn, I can feel your pain. I would feel awfull if my spouse had said that about my car. I dovorce after 23 years of marriage...Don't plan on marrying anytime soon, but who knows, when that new Asian girl is going to jump out at me at a car show. Still looking for Miss right, but I'm willing to wait......
Life is good right now, however it is a little lonely at times. It's hard to find the right one when you don't know if it is a financial attraction or some other reason.
Because of the economical struggles we are all having you never know what are the motives...

Amen.

Been there and it really sucks on the tapered end.

[quote=SKINNEDR;968125]Mannnnnnnnnnn, I can feel your pain. I would feel hawfull if my spouse had said that about my car. I dovorce after 23 years of marriage...Don't plan on marrying anytime soon, but who knows, when that new Asian girl is going to jump out at me at a car show. Still looking for Miss right, but I'm willing to wait......
Life is good right now, however it is a little lonely at times. It's hard to find the right one when you don't know if it is a financial attraction or some other reason.
Because of the economical struggles we are all having you never know what are the motives...[/QUOTE]

Anthropologists studying human behavior have a pretty good handle on what motivates men and women to partner up, and both are often shallow in their own unique ways. Men are shallow in the way most value youth and physical attractiveness over loyalty, supportiveness and other personality traits. Women are shallow in the way they value financial strength and social standing over loyalty, faithfulness and other personality traits. Most men are drawn to women who will stimulate their sex drive and bear good looking children. Most women are drawn to men who will provide financially for them and their children. Members of neither gender are particularly noble. They're just homo sapiens looking out for their own best interests. The easiest way to avoid disappointment is to not expect humans to behave differently than they always have.

Tommy, that was heavy. are you a psychologist?
That is basically true.....
I have been divorced about 18 months now, and since then I have had so many request/ offers to move in with me and I know why. It sure isn't for love, and I'm not buying....
Dex....

What's interesting is I shared this story with my wife and we both agree, the guy was certainly asking for it. But we also give him points for sheer, stupid style =)

We've been married for 4 months now, but we'll be celebrating our 10th anniversary next Feb. Bugs my friends when I say that, but we lived together as a couple for 8 years before I even proposed. We got to know each other, and both of our faults and strengths.

As for the guys who are against having to "ask permission" from the wife on a purchase, let me ask you this. Does your wife have to ask YOU for permission for things? Or is it a you do my thing, you do yours as long as we aren't over-reaching on expenses and the like?

I don't ask my wife when i buy things, she doesn't ask me either. But we keep our finances seperate (*NO* joint accounts).

I kept a separate account...
I had my resposibilities and she did. These same guys that ask permission for minor stuff that they want also has to ask to go outside in the backyard..
Woman has totally control....
And in most cases their clothing are picked out for them everyday to go to work..
Cannot make any decisions on thier own. I have a brother just like that....
Dex...