[jams]

That is good advice. I have already shared my feelings with little to no effect.

The reason she did not want to ask opinions up front or have better communication is because then people like myself would have spoken up and the event would have never happened. By planning in behind my back the event is planned without opposition and I am relegated to being an invited guest.

I am still an enabler because I am going to the birthday party for the day. I can't bring myself to punish my mother for my sister's insanity.