[jams]

While it is a little extreem as far as independance goes you should be very proud.

Apparently he cares if it is a loan or a gift but you see the big picture. You just want to spend time together.

I would rather him refuse money than take the money for new tires and blow it on drugs.

Most kids are spoiled and expect money. Sounds like you instilled great character traits.

May he have a safe deployment.