[jayscobras]

I was my mom's primary caregiver for two years before placing her in a skilled nursing facility two years ago.

Here is a suggestion for you any any others going through these trying and tough times. Obtain a copy of the book "A 36 hour Day". It was compiled by Johns-Hopkins and every time it is reprinted it is updated. The name relates to what caregivers feel their day is like. It is not a read every word type reference but it does cover everything imaginable and it will give you a new outlook on some issues.

Keep your patience in check and don't be angry if you are questioned, tested or have rank pulled on you. It is the disease not the familly member that you are dealing with. If you have sibbllings they must all be on the same page and understand the disease not be in denial. Get an exact diagnosis of their condition. Do not guess.

Try to look for humor with the patient every day. Take your feelings off your shoulders.

Good luck for the disease is the worst. There will be two deaths. First the personallity then the person. My prayers are with you.

Jay