Mike,
I really despise when one group of people tries to tell another group of people how to live their lives in a country that is supposed to be full of freedom. So there!
Anyway - deviant behaviour (to me) would be something that is against the law. And that usually covers anything not involving consenting adult(s). Do you consider tattoos and piercings deviant? Should they be outlawed as well, or should they just be be restricted to people over a certain age?
As for gays adopting, I agree that kids are better off with two parents, and I would also agree that a male and female parents would be the ideal situation. I also think that most stable gay couples would be better parents than a number of parents currently raising kids. And I suspect that gay couples may be more open to adopting kids of different races (they are used to dealing with differences) where a lot of WASP types may only want white kids and have to go to Russia to get them. I know this is a personal thing for you as I think you adopted at least one of your kids (Caleb, right?). I'm sure you and your wife are great parents, but if you and other 'normal' families were not available to adopt him would you rather he go to a foster family with 5 other foster kids or a gay/lesbian couple with a nice house in the 'burbs?
Having a 'normal' family does not prevent kids from getting skewed in some way. In MA a gay person has no more political power than I do. A gay married guy has less political power than I do because his marriage is not recognised at the Federal level.
And when you get right down to it I think that the total % of American population that is gay is something like 2%, and I strongly suspect that a large number of gays who marry are more interested in the legal benefits than raising kids.
All that being said - I do wish that gays and other groups would stop marching around telling everyone how <insert adjective here> they are.
Steve