My dad's girlfriend died

[1ntCobra]

If you Dad is broke and deeply mortgaged, I would be asking what he planned on using the $75k for. Is he going to try to live off that money for a few years?

Perhaps you should figure out if he is upside down (owing more than his assets are worth). Maybe he should sell his house and see if there is anything left over to move to a smaller place. If there is nothing left over maybe he could move into a room in your house?

[RICK LAKE]

Scott S. Scott I lost my dad 3 years ago when I went to the run&gun. I got the call thur morning at the track. Thanks to Cloris, Jay, Lew, and couple of others, they loaded my stuff back on the trailer. Thery offered to drive my stuff home and even fly me home and lock up my stuff at the track for a week. Thanks for the offer, Tim and Dan. I drove 18 hours straight home. It rained the whole way home. I had a fight with him before I left to go racing. 2 Irish/german men bang heads. I have not forgotten the fight or him everyday I am on this planet. I miss that SOB, he wasa my only father. I am having the same problem now with my mother. She is 80 and ripping apart my relatationship with my other half. We do the cooking, running her to doctors, getting food and cook it and having her ***** about how it taste. Biting our lip gets real tuff after a while. She is sitting on about 3/4 of a million dollars and is just pissing it away. This is the only controll she has on us. She has changed the will 8 times in the last 6 months. I told her we don't need her money and don't care about it. Deb and me live well within our means.
Here the best thought I have on your problem. bank rupt the whole mess. give the bank the house and any else in his name. If there is any thing of value remove it from the house before forcloser. Walk AWAY. You can't get blood from a rock. Tell the credit card companies it's their fault for giving all this money to him without any control and extend a credit line with no job and retired. give him 2 choices, live with you under YOUR RULES and LAWS or see if someone else would take him. If he was in the services he might be able to get something out of the military. The other is show him the road and walk away. Yes I know this is brutial, but you are being pinned into a corner with no options. Under no conditions give him any money. I would try and track down and find out what happened to the money. There has to be a trail, credit cards, bills, medical, trips, jewelry, something. No matter what happens he should still get SS if he put into it. You are in a bad way and your love for your father could break you too. It is harder to do the right thing than do the easy way out. You have alot of people here to talk too about this. good luck Rick L.